Hey there! June is traditionally the month for weddings in the United States, a trend dating back to ancient Rome when June was associated with Juno, the goddess of marriage. So, I thought it would be fitting to write this month’s blog post about love, weddings, wedding dresses, and, of course, insulin pumps!
Most girls dream of their “prince charming,” the perfect wedding, and the dress of their dreams. Every bride wants to look perfect on their wedding day. However, for some of us (including me), we didn’t dream of our insulin pump being visible in our wedding dress or having our diabetes on display on our “perfect day.” Even though diabetes is a huge part of my life, it doesn’t define me, and I didn’t want it on display on my wedding day. For me, it was important not to have any pump or CGM “lumps or bumps” or visible injection sites.
My big goal was to find my perfect dress and hide my insulin pump at the same time. I wanted to look like a beautiful, “normal” bride.
Here are a few things to consider when dress hunting:
- The Venue: Where are you getting married? The beach, a church, a reception hall, your backyard?
- The Time of Year/Weather: Is it winter or summer? Will it be hot or cold? Indoor or outside?
- The Type of Dress: Is it mermaid or trumpet style? Form-fitting or A-line? Soft and flowy like princess or empire-waisted?
I ask these questions because they all factor into the best way to hide your pump/medical devices. For example, if you have a skintight dress, it may be harder to “hide” your pump. You might need to talk to your seamstress about sewing in a little pocket near the bottom just for your pump. On the other hand, if you choose an empire waist or ballgown style, it might be as easy as purchasing a simple lace or stretchy leg band that goes around your thigh from Amazon. They even make ones that strap around your waist.
Another option to consider is ditching your pump for the day altogether and going to injections. Although I considered this, it wasn’t the right choice for me. I’m not big on taking “pump vacations” and switching back to multiple injections for the day or week. The last thing I wanted to do on my wedding day was to take a break from the fun to run into the bathroom for several injections to correct all the cake and drinks. I wanted total freedom to eat or drink whatever I wanted and just dial up a bolus correction and keep dancing! However, it might be a great option for you, and it certainly won’t show the “lumps and bumps” of infusion sites and insulin pumps/CGMs.
My Wedding Venue and Weather Woes
My venue was outside in the Beachside Palapa at the Dreams Resort in beautiful Puerto Aventuras, Mexico—a darling little fishing town about 30 minutes between Cancun and Tulum. My husband and I are “beach people.” We feel total “Zen” and at home when we are on the beach, hearing the soothing waves crashing. I knew with all my heart that we had to have a destination wedding and get married on the beach!
Fall is my favorite season, so we narrowed our wedding day down to October and November and decided on November 10, 2017, due to booking availability. The perfect backdrop was now set! I had always dreamed of a wedding where the sound of the waves crashing would be our background music and the beach would be our natural decor. The beach has always been our happy place, and it only made sense to start our journey as a married couple in a place that brought us so much peace and joy.
However, here’s a little PSA: the hurricane season in the Caribbean is from June 1 to November 30. We had traveled to the Bahamas and US Virgin Islands in October in previous years, so we thought we were in the clear. Needless to say, it “tropical stormed” on our wedding day! People will tell you it’s good luck if it rains on your wedding day. I call BS! That’s just what people say to feel better when it rains on their wedding day. However, it still turned out to be magical. Although we had to move the reception inside (when I had originally dreamed of dancing under the stars with our feet in the sand), we were blessed with a short window of time when the rain stopped enough to still have our ceremony beachside in the Palapa, and it was perfect!
Choosing the Perfect Dress
The type of dress I had always envisioned for myself, to go with the tropical beach wedding theme, was a form-fitting mermaid style. I’ve always been “curvy” and wanted to accentuate that. Plus, who doesn’t want to look like a beautiful mermaid? My dress was tight, so my options were pretty limited as far as hiding my pump. I talked to my seamstress at one of my dress fittings, and she came up with the perfect solution: to sew in a little pocket near the bottom of my dress that was easily accessible to pull up under the table and dial up an insulin bolus. It worked like a charm and was absolutely perfect!
Finding the perfect dress was quite an adventure. I visited several bridal shops, tried on countless dresses, and dealt with the well-meaning but sometimes overwhelming advice from friends and family. My main concern was always how to manage my insulin pump discreetly. When I finally found the dress, a stunning mermaid style that hugged my curves in all the right places, I knew I had to find a way to make it work with my pump.
Tips for Other Diabetic Brides
Here are some tips I gathered through my experience that might help other diabetic brides out there:
- Communicate with Your Seamstress: Be open about your needs. A good seamstress can work wonders and come up with creative solutions to hide your pump.
- Consider Dress Style: As mentioned earlier, the style of the dress can significantly impact how easily you can hide your medical devices. A-line and ballgown styles are often more forgiving.
- Explore Accessories: Look into thigh bands, waist belts, or specially designed bridal accessories that can hold your pump.
- Plan Ahead: Think about your insulin needs throughout the day. Make sure you have easy access to your pump and test supplies.
My Wedding Day Experience
The wedding itself was truly the BEST day of my entire life, to date! I had the time of my life celebrating with all our friends and family! The day started with a slight panic due to the weather, but as the saying goes, “If you want to make God laugh, tell Him your plans.” Despite the tropical storm, everything fell into place beautifully. The rain added a unique, almost cinematic touch to our photos, and the sound of the raindrops mixed with the ocean waves created an unforgettable atmosphere.
For those of you who don’t know me well, I’d like to mention that I am a bit superstitious, so I followed the old English wedding tradition: something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, and a sixpence in my shoe.
For something old, my mom gave me her diamond earrings. For something new, I wore a bangle bracelet set and new shoes. I borrowed my sister’s wedding veil, and for something blue, I had a tiny ocean-themed hairpin. My best friend sent me a sixpence from England for my shoe. These little touches brought me good luck and made me feel connected to my loved ones on my wedding day.
The reception was a blast! The move indoors didn’t dampen our spirits. Our friends and family danced the night away, and I managed to enjoy every moment without worrying about my diabetes. I had a blast dancing, eating, and celebrating with my loved ones. I seriously tell my husband all the time that I want to go back and do it all over again.
Final Thoughts
So, my fellow brides-to-be, especially those of you navigating the extra challenge of managing diabetes on your big day, I say: enjoy your big day, soak it all in, have a ball, and forget your diabetes! With a bit of planning and creativity, you can have the wedding of your dreams without compromising your health or comfort.
By the way, since it rained on our wedding day, our amazing photographer offered to meet with us again a few days later when the weather was better to do a trash the dress session, and it did not disappoint! It was an incredible experience that allowed us to relive the magic of our wedding day without the tropical storm.
And remember, whether it rains or shines, whether your dress is mermaid or ballgown, the most important thing is the love you share with your partner and the joy of celebrating your special day with those you care about. Cheers to all the brides out there making their dreams come true, one insulin bolus at a time!
Drop a comment below sharing your wedding day, your dress, or how you managed/hid your insulin pumps and CGMs! Or feel free to ask a question!
XO,
Allison
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