Love, Wedding Dresses and Insulin Pumps: Finding the Perfect Fit

by | Jun 25, 2024

Hey there! June is traditionally the month for weddings in the United States, a trend dating back to ancient Rome when June was associated with Juno, the goddess of marriage. So, I thought it would be fitting to write this month’s blog post about love, weddings, wedding dresses, and, of course, insulin pumps!

Most girls dream of their “prince charming,” the perfect wedding, and the dress of their dreams. Every bride wants to look perfect on their wedding day. However, for some of us (including me), we didn’t dream of our insulin pump being visible in our wedding dress or having our diabetes on display on our “perfect day.” Even though diabetes is a huge part of my life, it doesn’t define me, and I didn’t want it on display on my wedding day. For me, it was important not to have any pump or CGM “lumps or bumps” or visible injection sites.

My big goal was to find my perfect dress and hide my insulin pump at the same time. I wanted to look like a beautiful, “normal” bride.

Here are a few things to consider when dress hunting:

  1. The Venue: Where are you getting married? The beach, a church, a reception hall, your backyard?
  2. The Time of Year/Weather: Is it winter or summer? Will it be hot or cold? Indoor or outside?
  3. The Type of Dress: Is it mermaid or trumpet style? Form-fitting or A-line? Soft and flowy like princess or empire-waisted?

I ask these questions because they all factor into the best way to hide your pump/medical devices. For example, if you have a skintight dress, it may be harder to “hide” your pump. You might need to talk to your seamstress about sewing in a little pocket near the bottom just for your pump. On the other hand, if you choose an empire waist or ballgown style, it might be as easy as purchasing a simple lace or stretchy leg band that goes around your thigh from Amazon. They even make ones that strap around your waist.

Another option to consider is ditching your pump for the day altogether and going to injections. Although I considered this, it wasn’t the right choice for me. I’m not big on taking “pump vacations” and switching back to multiple injections for the day or week. The last thing I wanted to do on my wedding day was to take a break from the fun to run into the bathroom for several injections to correct all the cake and drinks. I wanted total freedom to eat or drink whatever I wanted and just dial up a bolus correction and keep dancing! However, it might be a great option for you, and it certainly won’t show the “lumps and bumps” of infusion sites and insulin pumps/CGMs.

My Wedding Venue and Weather Woes

My venue was outside in the Beachside Palapa at the Dreams Resort in beautiful Puerto Aventuras, Mexico—a darling little fishing town about 30 minutes between Cancun and Tulum. My husband and I are “beach people.” We feel total “Zen” and at home when we are on the beach, hearing the soothing waves crashing. I knew with all my heart that we had to have a destination wedding and get married on the beach!

Fall is my favorite season, so we narrowed our wedding day down to October and November and decided on November 10, 2017, due to booking availability. The perfect backdrop was now set! I had always dreamed of a wedding where the sound of the waves crashing would be our background music and the beach would be our natural decor. The beach has always been our happy place, and it only made sense to start our journey as a married couple in a place that brought us so much peace and joy.

However, here’s a little PSA: the hurricane season in the Caribbean is from June 1 to November 30. We had traveled to the Bahamas and US Virgin Islands in October in previous years, so we thought we were in the clear. Needless to say, it “tropical stormed” on our wedding day! People will tell you it’s good luck if it rains on your wedding day. I call BS! That’s just what people say to feel better when it rains on their wedding day. However, it still turned out to be magical. Although we had to move the reception inside (when I had originally dreamed of dancing under the stars with our feet in the sand), we were blessed with a short window of time when the rain stopped enough to still have our ceremony beachside in the Palapa, and it was perfect!

Choosing the Perfect Dress

The type of dress I had always envisioned for myself, to go with the tropical beach wedding theme, was a form-fitting mermaid style. I’ve always been “curvy” and wanted to accentuate that. Plus, who doesn’t want to look like a beautiful mermaid? My dress was tight, so my options were pretty limited as far as hiding my pump. I talked to my seamstress at one of my dress fittings, and she came up with the perfect solution: to sew in a little pocket near the bottom of my dress that was easily accessible to pull up under the table and dial up an insulin bolus. It worked like a charm and was absolutely perfect!

Finding the perfect dress was quite an adventure. I visited several bridal shops, tried on countless dresses, and dealt with the well-meaning but sometimes overwhelming advice from friends and family. My main concern was always how to manage my insulin pump discreetly. When I finally found the dress, a stunning mermaid style that hugged my curves in all the right places, I knew I had to find a way to make it work with my pump.

Tips for Other Diabetic Brides

Here are some tips I gathered through my experience that might help other diabetic brides out there:

  1. Communicate with Your Seamstress: Be open about your needs. A good seamstress can work wonders and come up with creative solutions to hide your pump.
  2. Consider Dress Style: As mentioned earlier, the style of the dress can significantly impact how easily you can hide your medical devices. A-line and ballgown styles are often more forgiving.
  3. Explore Accessories: Look into thigh bands, waist belts, or specially designed bridal accessories that can hold your pump.
  4. Plan Ahead: Think about your insulin needs throughout the day. Make sure you have easy access to your pump and test supplies.

My Wedding Day Experience

The wedding itself was truly the BEST day of my entire life, to date! I had the time of my life celebrating with all our friends and family! The day started with a slight panic due to the weather, but as the saying goes, “If you want to make God laugh, tell Him your plans.” Despite the tropical storm, everything fell into place beautifully. The rain added a unique, almost cinematic touch to our photos, and the sound of the raindrops mixed with the ocean waves created an unforgettable atmosphere.

For those of you who don’t know me well, I’d like to mention that I am a bit superstitious, so I followed the old English wedding tradition: something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue, and a sixpence in my shoe.

 

For something old, my mom gave me her diamond earrings. For something new, I wore a bangle bracelet set and new shoes. I borrowed my sister’s wedding veil, and for something blue, I had a tiny ocean-themed hairpin. My best friend sent me a sixpence from England for my shoe. These little touches brought me good luck and made me feel connected to my loved ones on my wedding day.

The reception was a blast! The move indoors didn’t dampen our spirits. Our friends and family danced the night away, and I managed to enjoy every moment without worrying about my diabetes. I had a blast dancing, eating, and celebrating with my loved ones. I seriously tell my husband all the time that I want to go back and do it all over again.

Final Thoughts

So, my fellow brides-to-be, especially those of you navigating the extra challenge of managing diabetes on your big day, I say: enjoy your big day, soak it all in, have a ball, and forget your diabetes! With a bit of planning and creativity, you can have the wedding of your dreams without compromising your health or comfort.

By the way, since it rained on our wedding day, our amazing photographer offered to meet with us again a few days later when the weather was better to do a trash the dress session, and it did not disappoint! It was an incredible experience that allowed us to relive the magic of our wedding day without the tropical storm.

And remember, whether it rains or shines, whether your dress is mermaid or ballgown, the most important thing is the love you share with your partner and the joy of celebrating your special day with those you care about. Cheers to all the brides out there making their dreams come true, one insulin bolus at a time!

Drop a comment below sharing your wedding day, your dress, or how you managed/hid your insulin pumps and CGMs! Or feel free to ask a question!

XO,

Allison

My Type 1 Diabetes Story: 28 Years of Highs, Lows, and Everything in Between

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Hey friends! It’s November, which means it’s Diabetes Awareness Month, and I’m excited to celebrate it with you all by sharing my own story. This Christmas Eve, I’ll be marking my 28th “diaversary” — yep, 28 years since my diagnosis with Type 1 Diabetes (T1D). It’s wild to think I’ve had diabetes for over half of my life! I can barely even remember what my life was like pre-diabetes. It’s been a journey full of ups, downs, a few epic rescues, some truly “sweet” adventures, and a lifetime of unexpected lessons.  

So, grab your favorite snack, maybe a juice box if you’re really feeling the T1D vibe, and let’s dive into my story! 

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Where It All Began - The Diagnosis: Christmas Eve Surprise

Every story has a beginning, so here’s mine. It was Christmas Eve, and I had just turned 12 a couple of weeks prior. I was in sixth grade, feeling as miserable as any kid who should be enjoying holiday break but instead couldn’t seem to shake feeling pretty lousy—constantly thirsty, running to the bathroom a million times a day, and losing weight like crazy. I didn’t know it then, but these are classic symptoms of diabetes.  

On Christmas Eve, while most kids were dreaming of presents, I was lying listlessly in bed, barely conscious. My parents had taken me to the doctor earlier, and I’d been prescribed antibiotics for what we thought was a standard winter bug. But things just kept getting worse, and when my dad checked in on me that evening, he knew something was very wrong. One ambulance ride later, we were at the University of Michigan Children’s Hospital, where I spent the rest of the holiday learning about Type 1 Diabetes. It was a shocker, for sure. Suddenly, life as I knew it was forever changed. 

Growing Up with Diabetes - More than Just Shots and Juice Boxes

The early years with T1D were tough. I avoided talking about it with friends, partly because I couldn’t get through a conversation without tearing up and partly because I just hated it. Playing basketball was a challenge because of the constant blood sugar swings, and I quickly became known for carrying glucose tabs and juice boxes everywhere. I hated feeling shaky, dizzy, and out of control. And let’s be honest, I hated feeling “different.” 

Sleepovers and dinner outings? Pure anxiety! Back in the pre-pump days, I was giving myself insulin shots. I couldn’t stand when friends’ parents would say, “I don’t know how you do it. I could never poke myself like that!” It was hard enough without people pointing it out. It’s not like I had a choice! The reality was, I either learned to give myself injections or… well, let’s not go there. The constant comments and awkward questions left me feeling embarrassed, and eventually, I got tired of explaining myself. So, I stopped testing and giving shots as often as I should. 

Then, in 1999, I got my first insulin pump. It was a Medtronic MiniMed 508, and that little device changed the game for me. No more injections, but it also meant this beeping device on my hip drew lots of attention. Teachers thought it was a pager going off in class (this was the ‘90s after all), and one friend’s older sister teased me for wearing it at the beach, asking, “Why’d you bring your pager? You think you’re that cool?” Let me tell you, that was a tough time to be a teen with T1D. 

College & Finding My Way

Heading to college was another huge milestone. I had to learn to manage my diabetes independently, without the close monitoring and support of my mom.  

Of course, I made some rookie mistakes along the way. I once totally miscalculated my supply order and ran out of pump infusion sets. Luckily, I remembered a friend from high school and diabetes camp who also went to Michigan State. A quick message to her, and I was running across campus to her dorm for a few backup infusion sets to hold me over. That’s the thing about the diabetes community—we’re all in this together, and support each other. 

Managing T1D in college wasn’t just about supplies; I also had to navigate social situations that challenged my comfort zone. Drinking was a whole new ballgame. Figuring out that alcohol, when mixed with T1D, is just…well, complicated. I had to learn what worked for me through trial and error, and sometimes that meant midnight trips for snacks to keep my blood sugar up after a night out. It was a balancing act I learned the hard way a few times, but I got the hang of it, carrying glucose tabs and juice boxes like part of the outfit. 

Dating with T1D: From Hiding to Confidence

Dating with T1D was nerve-wracking at first. My high school boyfriend was understanding, but when I’d go out with him, I’d disconnect my pump just to avoid talking about it. I’d convinced myself that people wouldn’t want to “deal with” my diabetes. That feeling intensified when a friend’s boyfriend saw my pump infusion site at the pool one day and whispered, “What’s that thing on her stomach?” I was mortified. From then on, every time I went to the beach or pool, I’d pull off my infusion site, determined to avoid more awkward questions. I didn’t want anyone to think I was “sick” or “different,” so I went to ridiculous lengths to hide my T1D, even if it meant sky-high glucose levels. 

By the time I met my now-husband, I realized that the right person wouldn’t care. When I told him about my T1D, he didn’t flinch. In fact, he became my biggest support, carrying juice boxes and reminding me to pack low snacks for hikes. He even helps change my infusion site when it’s hard to reach—now that’s love. 

The Power of Camp and Giving Back

One of the best parts of my diabetes journey was attending diabetes camp. Going to camp surrounded by other kids who understood what I was going through was a game-changer. It helped me build confidence, feel normal, and learn that I wasn’t alone. I loved it so much that, later on, I returned as a counselor. Giving back to these kids as they navigated their own journeys was so rewarding. Helping them feel empowered with T1D brought me so much joy, and honestly, being a counselor allowed me to grow too. 

The diabetes camp I attended as a camper back in Michigan was called Camp Midicha, and the camp I attended as an adult diabetes counselor (DC) in Arizona is called Camp AZDA. Some of the long-time T1D community members, often called the ‘Betic Army’ branched off and created The Diabetes Network of AZ, in hopes of bringing the magic of camp back into families and communities all year long! I am proud to be aligned with this exceptional organization!  

Click here to read more about daibetes camps and support groups on my blog post!

Plus, it led me to try some seriously cool new things like zip-lining, white-water rafting, and skydiving! Diabetes has never held me back from adventure. Just ask me about the time I got choppered off Superstition Mountain — there’s always a good story waiting! 

Walking Down the Aisle with T1D

Getting married was one of the most beautiful days of my life, and I chose to keep my pump and diabetes gear out of sight on my wedding day (you can read about that here on my wedding dress blog post). I had a custom pocket sewn into my dress, and I skipped the CGM sensor. I checked my blood sugars on my own time, and everything went off without a hitch! It was a day to focus on love and joy — diabetes was present, but it didn’t get center stage. 

The Journey to Motherhood Pregnancy with T1D: A Whole New Level

And then came pregnancy, which is a whole journey in itself! It could fill a blog post of its own (and someday it will!), but let me just say that navigating pregnancy with T1D was hands down the hardest thing I’ve ever done.  

I suffered two miscarriages before successfully delivering my daughter early at 36 weeks, which made every day of each pregnancy feel precious and high-stakes. I stayed laser-focused and checked my blood sugar non-stop, adjusted my insulin doses like a full-time job, and dialed my A1C in to 5.8 (the lowest it’s ever been in my life) check, even when it felt impossible. 

It paid off with the birth of my two beautiful children, who are everything to me. We faced some challenges, like NICU stays, but I wouldn’t change a thing. The postpartum period brought its own diabetes challenges, too. Adjusting basal rates, breastfeeding, and pumping were exhausting but rewarding. There’s nothing quite like the first time you’re alone with the baby and experience low blood sugar — talk about a panic moment! But I got through it, and I’m proud of how far I’ve come. 

Embracing Today and Looking Ahead to the Future

These days, I’m living in the present, grateful for every step of this journey. T1D has taught me resilience, compassion, and strength. I’ve accomplished things I never thought possible, and while diabetes isn’t always easy, it’s part of what makes me me. I’ve learned to approach each day with gratitude and hope for the future. 

Looking back on nearly three decades with diabetes, I can honestly say I wouldn’t be who I am without it. Sure, it’s tough. It requires constant attention, planning, and patience (especially on low-sugar days). But it’s also introduced me to the most incredible people and made me feel more empowered. I’ve got a community that feels like family, and every shared story reminds me that I’m not in this alone. 

Today, I manage my T1D with a combo of technology, experience, and a lot of humor. I rock a Omnipod insulin pump and Freestyle Libre 3 continuous glucose monitor (CGM), which has been a game-changer. My A1C is better than ever, and I feel more in control. But T1D will always keep me on my toes. I’ve learned that the only constant is change, and I’m okay with that. 

As I look forward, I’m excited to see where this journey will take me next. And if you’re wondering how I navigate the big stuff (like life insurance, traveling with T1D,  and the secrect benefit of diabetes), I’ve got some blog posts on that, too! My goal is to help others with T1D live their best lives — to dream BIG and never let diabetes hold them back. 

So, here’s to all the “Betics” out there— let’s keep lifting each other up, pushing each other to take on new adventures, and share our stories to show the world what T1D warriors look like! 

Thank you so much for reading and being a part of my story. If you’ve got a diabetes journey of your own, I’d love to hear about it in the comments! Let’s keep sharing, learning, and celebrating this community that has lifted me up for the past 28 years. Happy Diabetes Awareness Month, friends! 

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